Today’s Workout – stick to your guns!

Hi Bloggers,

I went to Blairmore gym today in Saskatoon. It’s a great gym, I’m a member of a chain of 3 gyms, soon to be 4 apparently. I like Blairmore because it is quiet compared to the other two gyms, and the equipment is brand new. Makes for a nice work out. work out Sun 17 Sep 2017

So, hopefully, a very human post today. This morning I was feeling a little achy in the upper back/neck where I often experience headaches, so I was conscious of that getting started. I used some moisturiser and rubbed my traps and upper back as best I could. I felt just a little nauseous which can be an effect of these neck type pains.

I put on my gym gear – hot shorts of course. I shave my legs because I can’t stand hairy legs. I made a resolution to shave once a week – keeps everything relatively smooth. I took an extra 10 minutes or so to get that done.

I felt a bit like I needed to pee. I put that aside as I got into my workout. Getting through my sets, I was doubtful within myself that I could do the 5 sets of 5 bench press with 225 lbs. But I kept going. Pushing through. The good news, I got through my work out, and actually feel pretty damn good right now! work out Sun 17 Sep 2017 2I also did lat raises, bent over lat raises, incline bench press, chest flyes, and lying leg raises.

This week I was challenged a few times, in work, in life whatever. Sometimes these things are put before us to test out mettle. I think what matters is what you do with these challenges, how you respond. Can you make yourself a better person from the experience?

It’s not about taking a bunch of shit and accepting it. Its not about reacting strongly or getting emotional. Its about standing up for yourself. Responding appropriately. Being direct with people, yet courteous and polite. Its about sticking to your guns….. 

 

 

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My daughter’s 12 today.

HI Bloggers,

My wonderful daughter turns 12 today. Twelve years ago I was at a country town hospital – Biloela in Central Queensland. My wife had been in labour over night. She was born in the morning – around 7 am. I was the first person to hold her, except perhaps for my wife. I remember I cried tears of joy. I was so happy. I called my sister and my parents and I told them about our new baby girl. I was happy and recall trying to talk clearly to my sister but being kind of choked by happy tears – if that is even possible.

We have our moments, my daughter and I. She’s growing up to be a young woman. Sometimes I hardly recognise her. She’s beautiful, and sweet and all the things I could hope for.

Glad to share this with the world today.

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I had to take her shopping to get this hug!

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With her mom.

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Today, down by the river. It was nice day.

 

Saturday’s workout and other ramblings. SO much to be thankful for!

Sat 9 Sep 2017
Ahhh Bhudda, I hardly know your philosophies, yet at the same time I get it, like in an ignorant westerner looking for spirituality kind of way……

 Hi Bloggers,

Today was leg day. I wore my new long tights I bought on line, so that was a bit of fun. Here’s my workout: Following the general Arnie written split workout deal…. loosely following.

  • Squats: 6 sets of 15, 10, 8, 6, 4, 4.
  • Leg extensions, 5 sets of 10 reps.
  • Leg curls, 6 sets of 15, 10, 8, 8, 6.
  • Sit ups 3 sets of 25, 15, 10.
  • Calf raises, 3 sets of 10.
  • Straight leg deadlift, 3 sets of 10.

It was a good work out.

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Yes, I do like these new tights!

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BIG NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My daughter hugged me!

It’s her 12th birthday tomorrow. I woke her this morning to ask what she wanted for her birthday. I was kind of surprised, she didn’t even yell at me! So that’s the plan here today, I will be taking her shopping and get something that she would like. One small step for fatherhood, one giant leap for this dad!

I was also reflecting on the past few months. I had a chat with the ex – with kids being noisy in the background, but a chat all the same. Sometimes its good to talk. A few months ago I was really not doing too good. I was struggling a bit. Ok, a lot perhaps. Strangely, within myself I felt pretty good but all around me there was chaos and upset….

All self caused, and I’m ok with that too. Major changes are tough – especially on those around you. I’ve had to modify a few things in my life and I’ve had some learnings about what works and what causes upset. I don’t have any regrets. None. Its just a matter of living and learning and finding your true path.

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If you see this guy, buy him a coffee, he probably has some stories to tell! Or, maybe let me buy you a coffee. As long as I can blog on your story! 😉

So its probably worth a quick list of the things I am thankful for:

  • I am loved.
  • I have two wonderful healthy children.
  • I have an ex who cares about me.
  • I have a job. It pays well.
  • I have a new boss, and so far the arrangement is very decent.
  • I have my health.
  • I enjoy keeping fit and working out.
  • I have family that cares for me (even if I disappoint sometimes!)
  • I have eyesight.
  • I have mental faculties that allow me to express myself, to write, to draw, to play music, to dance!
  • I have a car, that runs, and its cheap on petrol!
  • I have two wonderful dogs in my life.
  • I could probably keep going but I hear people dry retching so I will quit now!

WordPress readers and bloggers, you get a hug! Namaste.

 

Life is a Balancing Act

Hi Bloggers,

Life is a balancing act. We are constantly and often intuitively adjusting to the variables – maybe its the slope of the pavement, maybe its going around a corner on a bicycle, or deciding how much to spend on ourselves or our loved ones when buying a gift or having  a night out.

Balance also applies to personal freedoms. As with everything, there are balance issues to consider. How do you express yourself with the amount of freedom or experience you desire, while being considerate of the feelings of those who care about you? Even within yourself, there is balance to consider. How much to drink on a night out? Too much and you end up in gutter, too little and you maybe don’t get the buzz you are looking for. I’ve fucked that one up plenty of times.

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What if you don’t even know what your limits of acceptable experience are, because you are still finding your way in life, or your situation has changed? Sometimes you might over commit, sometimes you haven’t found your balance and invariably, you will leave people feeling disappointed, or perhaps find yourself regretting your actions or motivations.

There’s no magic answers here, sometimes its just down to life experience, going with the flow, and knowing when to say yes, and when to say no, even to yourself.

 

 

 

Rod Stewart – I Was Only Joking…. just awesome…

Hey Bloggers,

Disclaimer, I ‘m going through a lot in my life. This post isn’t directed at any one  or any situation, its just a celebration of music. Now let’s enjoy! 

So when I was growing up, as a child born in ’75, my mum played a LOT of Rod Stewart. She thought he was great, and I guess I kind of absorbed it. Inhaled it, was infused with it.

Rod Stewart is simply awesome. I do need to clarify though, the later (let’s say second half) part of his career was dominated by commercially packaged musical garbage, in my humble opinion.

However, his work in The Faces and later as a solo artist was much to my liking. It’s worth noting that being a rock star, in the early 70’s or whenever in the UK, he mixed with a lot of other rock stars, and I read the book by Keith Richards, and our Rod turns up in that book. As it happens, Rod ends up recruiting Ronnie Woods of the Rolling Stones and you can see him in the video for Stay With Me. I  attached the video link to that raucous celebration of rock and roll below.

But back to the topic – I was only joking. I love this track because its Rod ‘pouring his heart out in a song’ in a way that is both honest and kind of irreverent. You can just tell that he’s a genuine hopeless romantic, bumbling his way through life and living and loving and making mistakes, and having various relationships along the way. It’s sweet and a bit nasty at the same time how does he get away with that?????

Ok, I also want to draw attention to the guitar parts. Its almost perfection. The acoustic intro and solo are sweet like classical music, but when the electric guitar comes in after the acoustic guitar solo, I have a kind of audio aural canal orgasm, and that’s what we listing to music for, right? Perfect!!!!!!!

The verse after the guitar solo is especially bitter sweet. Just beautiful…

Now you ask me if I’m sincere
That’s the question that I always fear
Verse seven is never clear
But I’ll tell you what you want to hear
I try to give you all you want
But giving love is not my strongest point
If that’s the case, it’s pointless going on
I’d rather be alone
‘Cause what I’m doing must be wrong
Pouring my heart out in a song
Owning up for prosperity
For the whole damn world to see

 

 

 

 

Dancing in the Dark…

Hi Bloggers, I went to the dragon boat races today in Saskatoon. I was in a team from my work and we competed against a bunch of other teams in three different heats. It was fun and a nice warm day and a good way to mix with work colleagues and others.

As I was leaving, an iconic song came over the loudspeakers. It was Bruce Springsteen’s Dancing in the Dark. It’s got such an infectious groove. I was a kid of about 10 when it came out in 1984. I remember it well. I remember hearing it on the TV or the radio. That, along with Born in the USA, and some other stuff that was getting around at that time.

Hearing it reminded me of what are really well crafted pop/rock song that it is. I watched the video too (link below). The first thing you notice is how fresh faced our Bruce looks. He was 34 years old when he recorded this. On the video you could be forgiven for thinking he was maybe 25.

He’s got that swagger, that cheeky arrogance. A handsome face and suggestive smile and a pair of snug jeans. Women no doubt were just taken by the whole thing, and why not? But that’s not all, he was kind of approachable. He had the whole blue collar down-and-out working dog kind of image that people across the US and the world could relate to, because, well, maybe he’s just like most of us….

Reading up on the net, I learned that the film clip was recorded over two nights at St Paul, Minnesota. The girl that he pulls up on stage, that’s Courtney Cox, as in Courtney Cox who later went on to star in the 90’s sitcom Friends. I had no idea!

I like how the song has a kind of double entandra with the one side of the coin being about a guy who’s kinda lonely, and just wants to have some company, while the other side of the coin hints at a lusty young man with a gun for hire…. And the dancing in the dark, is that like, actually dancing, or is this some loaded suggestion about what happens when the lights go off after bedtime????

The synth riff, and the dreamy sax solo at the end really top it off!

Anyway, enough of my bullshit, let’s allow Bruce to lay it down

Video sourced from YouTube.

Today’s Workout, and some words of compassion…

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Hi Bloggers,

Today’s workout:

Squats

Calf raises

Alternating dumbbell curls

ezy bar bicep curls

Cross over (Zane) curls.

I had a really good work out.

Be kind, be kind to yourself, be kind to others. Do one act of kindness. Let someone know how much you mean to them, even if the situation has been challenging. 

Be yourself, don’t compromise who you are, and allow others to adjust to the person that you are becoming, if you are going through changes. 

Love and hugs. Namaste.

8 jul 2017

Today’s workout, and other wisdom shared… Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff!

 Bloggers, here is the work out I did today. I really enjoyed it but I felt a tweak in my right knee when bending and flexing, so I’ll be paying attention to that so it doesn’t become a long term injury, fingers crossed!

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Combo lat raises with overhead press dumbbell
Wide grip chin up
Cable cross over chest pulls
Bent over rows
Push ups with feet on bench

Ok, now for the wisdom part…

I got a book from the library called ‘Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.’ I highly recommend it. One chapter in the book described a really good concept.

Imagine that everyone else in your life is perfectly enlightened, and you, are not enlightened at all…..

Take a moment to let that sink in. You know what it does? It helps you to listen, to ask questions, and to refrain from jumping in and telling other people how it is, which is what we spend a lot of time doing. The net effect is that all of your interactions are less adversarial, and you will see the tension disappear from your conversations and conflicts. Plus, its humbling as anything, you just have to take a back seat, and sometimes that is refreshing.

Having said that, it doesn’t mean that you relinquish power, or compromise your values, you just spend more time trying to understand, rather than being understood.

Try it out – today!!!!!

Peace, and Namaste.

 

Today’s workout – and random ramblings….

So I got home from work today, kinda feeling a bit tired I had a long nap. I was only so-so about going for a workout. I got it done though, and surprisingly enough, it was a decent workout too. I seemed to get through my sets with ease. Some days are strong healthy days and some days we struggle. This was a strong day! 8 June 2017 3 (2)

Last night I had dinner with some work colleagues – the team. It was a nice restaurant. Maybe even a bit too nice for the crowd that I was with – they are good people alright, but I think maybe we were a bit out of place – laughing and joking and probably saying stuff that raised some eyebrows in the place.

There’s a guy I work with – complete prairie redneck. Now, I have to add, I have nothing against prairie rednecks, I’d even say I’m kind of fond of them, but I can assure you they don’t hold back when it comes to having a laugh and they don’t waste effort on social graces and political correctness.

He had me laughing so hard that I had to leave the table. It was ridiculous and I felt like a bit of a goose – snickering my way to the entrance to compose myself a bit. I actually laughed to the point of tears. Man, that was refreshing. I haven’t laughed like that in a very long time.

Lately, I feel like I’v8 June 2017 (2)e been doing better. Some blockages have been cleared. I have had time to reflect and adjust to a changing life situation. I feel pretty good. It’s apparent that I am obviously the major influence in my life, and my thoughts and actions have the biggest bearing on success or failure in all of my endeavours. Having said that, I can’t think or act for others, and how people perceive me, or react to me, or act in relation to what I say and do.

So I’m saying – ok. That’s ok. I’ll be alright. We can work together on issues or just avoid each other, it makes no difference to me.

Maybe that’s not entirely true, because I don’t live in a bubble and I do care about the quality of my inter-human relationships, very much actually. I guess I’m saying that I am finding my own direction, and people will either be content to be part of that or they won’t.

So we get one chance in this life. Actually lots of chances in life, but what matters is what we do with that. What I mean is that we only have a certain time on this planet, and so much energy, time, and perhaps entire lives are wasted on negative bullshit. I decided, I don’t want a part of that. Some people have real problems, health, family, employment, substance abuse, etc. I do feel for them. Really. I’m grateful that I have a lot of good in my life, and I’m busy making the most of my opportunities to be the best ‘me’ that I can.

You’re all welcome to join me if you wish.

Namaste 

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Forgiveness – Letting go of blame. A contribution to forgivingjournal….

Hi bloggers, through the magic of WordPress, you get to interact with other wonderful people out there. I stumbled across a really nice blog site called forgivingjournal, and was invited (or is that I insisted?) on writing a piece in contribution. In any case, here is the link to Debbie’s blogsite: forgivingjournal.

Ok, so, forgiveness, forgiving. That’s pretty much the theme of this wonderful blog site. It’s potentially a loaded gun, forgiveness, to blog about I mean. It’s because how do you like, explain how you are forgiving someone for something, without implicating them of some sort of wrong doing? I’m not judging in any way, we are all on our own journey, and I feel that there are things that I am ok with blogging about, and things that I feel I need to protect others’ privacy on.

For instance, I can’t say, I forgive my wife for being angry at me for doing something I did, and she feels entirely justified in her anger, because I did something to or against her. She’ll read this, and I’ll be in the shit, so I’m not going to do this.

Similar for my family, or others close to me. I don’t want to air my dirty laundry (any more than I already do on WP), its just too loaded. It’s too raw, too emotional.

Here’s what I can say:

I forgive myself, for being human, for doing stupid regrettable things, for embarrassing myself (actually still doing things that yield this result, I call that life). Forgiving oneself, and accepting ourselves as we are is extremely powerful and liberating.

I forgive others, who at times I have been angry and resentful towards. Often times, I have realised that this anger and resentment is really just a reflection or projection of my own insecurities and things that I have not resolved within myself. There are some good Buddhist type quotes along the lines of if you hold on to your anger, you will be the one that suffers. It affects you more than anyone else. Holding on to anger is like holding a hot coal, it is you who gets burned.

Meditation helps. If I am carrying some negative energy about a situation or a person, often if I meditate on that, I can allow those feelings of anger or resentment to resolve, to be put into perspective.

That, to me, is forgiveness.